The last month's been crazy. Through some tough emotional (work-related) stuff, I've been reminded of how much I appreciate the people that mean the most to me - and why.
Sometimes, we let our ego's care about other people's perceptions of us. And that's never a winning situation. So I asked myself one question:
Sometimes, we let our ego's care about other people's perceptions of us. And that's never a winning situation. So I asked myself one question:
Why would I be mad or sad if someone said something about me that wasn't true?
Can you imagine how celebrities must feel? Sure, they've got glamour and money, but I think we forget they're humans, too.
Recently, we had to let someone go on a project, (for a logical, valid reason) and that person questioned my loyalty and character. I had to stop the (email) conversation right there. I couldn't/wouldn't respond to that. It felt too much like blindly throwing sharp objects without knowing even knowing what was being aimed at (besides my head!).
Does this person not understand this is a business decision and not a friendship decision? Would this person have acted this way, or said these things to someone else, whom they maybe respected more?
Truth is, I don't really know this person that well.
Does this person not understand this is a business decision and not a friendship decision? Would this person have acted this way, or said these things to someone else, whom they maybe respected more?
Truth is, I don't really know this person that well.
This is the conclusion I've come to though. If someone doesn't really know you, they can let their mind run wild with false perceptions of who you are. And let's be honest, it's much easier to throw swords that way, instead of just taking responsibility for your own actions. But there's good news (hidden in) here.
I know who I am.
I know who I am.
I'm a sister, daughter, wife, aunt, and lover of all sweet life... a human being, though never perfect, that has some friends other people would die for. I've been married for over 10 years in a loyal relationship to a strange, loving human being. When I give a compliment I mean it. And when I send out loving thoughts, they're sincere.
People are not one dimensional. And just because you see something one way, doesn't mean it's the right way.
People are colorful, and complicated.
But, when someone's on fire, sometimes you have to surrender to "it's better to be kind than right."
Their fight is not your fight. Their feelings are not your feelings. Let them work it out.
Their fight is not your fight. Their feelings are not your feelings. Let them work it out.
I say this because we all are complex beings. We all have baggage and pockets full of surprises. But if we're smart, we learn to deal with it, put it aside, and don't let it dictate how we run our lives.
It's so easy to judge, laugh, criticize or even love strangers from a distance, when they haven't been humanized, isn't it?
Every once in a while, I get frustrated in traffic, too. But then I close my eyes (while I'm stopped of course!) and imagine if the person driving the car were my dad or mom.. and it changes everything.
As Dr. Dyer says, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
I see this (above) message as a way of honoring our bodies and minds. Choosing peace, and as a consequence - freeing our minds from clutter and unimportant drama. Knowing we all have a choice as to how we respond and handle things in our lives, even when they're not ideal.
And today, I choose to forgive that person for throwing swords, even if they choose otherwise. 'Cause the way I see it is, there are only two kinds of emotions: Love & Fear. Guess which one angry swords comes from?
Wishing you all love, laughter, light, and peace as you go into your week... stay reminded of what and who really matters... there's no greater time to give yourself the gift of love, honesty, and respect - than the present.
Jentri
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